Really, everybody is a lover. Even those we label as “bad people” are lovers. I think we all know this to be a fact. The thing is, we often forget it. We are quick to judge and say someone is not “cool” just because they don’t like us or talk to us. Sometimes we can’t even see their virtues, only their vices.
Really, everybody is a lover. There are three types of love. The Greek words used to describe them are agape, eros, and philia. The first one describes unconditional love. Eros relates to romantic love, while philia is the love one has for a friend. In looking for these terms, I found out there is another love, storge (family love, a natural affection). I believe that any person at least possess one of these loves.
Now that love is all around, imagine what would happen if we were not only lovers to those close to us, but if we actually extended this affection to others. Some of us consider ourselves good people and there’s always an excuse for whenever we act poorly. But, don’t those we think are bad do the same? I mean, they love somebody and (hopefully) do things to help that someone. How are we different? We nurture unhealthy interactions when we love these ones and dislike those ones. If I think you are mean, you might think I’m mean.
What if instead of focusing so much on how we are different, we talked about how we are similar? We all are lovers, so let’s love one another. Let us extend our love and analyze what that means to how we treat the barista every morning or evening, how we talk to the various desk workers we might interact with every weekday, or how we look at those we don’t really like.
‘If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them. And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners do that. And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, expecting to be repaid in full. But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back.’
—Jesus, Luke 6:32-35