Everybody is a lover

Really, everybody is a lover. Even those we label as “bad people” are lovers. I think we all know this to be a fact. The thing is, we often forget it. We are quick to judge and say someone is not “cool” just because they don’t like us or talk to us. Sometimes we can’t even see their virtues, only their vices.

Really, everybody is a lover. There are three types of love. The Greek words used to describe them are agape, eros, and philia. The first one describes unconditional love. Eros relates to romantic love, while philia is the love one has for a friend. In looking for these terms, I found out there is another love, storge (family love, a natural affection). I believe that any person at least possess one of these loves.

Now that love is all around, imagine what would happen if we were not only lovers to those close to us, but if we actually extended this affection to others. Some of us consider ourselves good people and there’s always an excuse for whenever we act poorly. But, don’t those we think are bad do the same? I mean, they love somebody and (hopefully) do things to help that someone. How are we different? We nurture unhealthy interactions when we love these ones and dislike those ones. If I think you are mean, you might think I’m mean.

What if instead of focusing so much on how we are different, we talked about how we are similar? We all are lovers, so let’s love one another. Let us extend our love and analyze what that means to how we treat the barista every morning or evening, how we talk to the various desk workers we might interact with every weekday, or how we look at those we don’t really like.


‘If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them. And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners do that. And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, expecting to be repaid in full. But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back.’

—Jesus, Luke 6:32-35


Everybody is a hero

The word hero is kind of weird. What does it mean? Does it apply to men and women alike? What about heroine? It has the same pronunciation as heroin. Do we talk about a drug or a woman? Maybe for some men both have the same effect.

The following entry is taken from the New Oxford American Dictionary:

hero |ˈhi(ə)rō|

noun (pl. heroes)

a person, typically a man, who is admired or idealized for courage, outstanding achievements, or noble qualities: a war hero.

• the chief male character in a book, play, or movie, who is typically identified with good qualities, and with whom the reader is expected to sympathize.

• (in mythology and folklore) a person of superhuman qualities and often semi divine origin, in particular one of those whose exploits and dealings with the gods were the subject of ancient Greek myths and legends.

If everybody is a hero, then let’s leave mythology and ridiculous costumes aside. We won’t be Superman or Captain America. We are not in a book, a play, or a movie, so we don’t need to compare ourselves to them either.

Anyway, the basic characteristics of a hero are either courage, outstanding achievements, or noble qualities. That sounds really broad to me. My mom believes what I do is outstanding, so does yours I hope. My friends think I have some noble qualities. Whoever I have defended, if there anyone, will say I’m courageous. Everybody is a hero.

We can all be heroes, that is, to someone. We might not be Iron Man and save a whole country from utter destruction. We might not carry guns and kill the bad guys (I truly hope I never do). We may not be the ones who go into a burning house to help a child and their mother. Can we still be heroes then?

As cliché as it is, there are various heroes in my family. Some have saved and continue saving me through financial support. Others have shared precious knowledge or much-needed jokes. For Christians, Jesus is our hero who brings a liberating philosophy of love. Whoever contributes to our well-being, be it mental, social, emotional, or physical, is our hero.

I hope to be a hero through this blog, at least to one of you. At times, I am a hero. Some have found my experiences and ideas to be useful while others decided to toss them without hesitation.

You will decide if I am a hero. But be assured that you, my reader, are one. By reading this, you’ll encourage me to continue sharing and nurturing my ideals and my hope of a holistically healthier community.


There is quite a few people who blog. Actually, this blog starts because a friend of mine just created one yesterday. I told her, “You should create a blog.” She seemed skeptical at first, but after a few minutes decided to go ahead. Reading her incredible first entry, I felt I needed to start a blog.

Yes, I already have a blog. But this is like a fresh start, and with this newborn I’ll nurture compassion, truth, peace, and love. Sometimes I’m quite the idealist. Don’t worry, I also believe in the importance of pragmatism.

The title “Everybody is a hero, a lover, a fool, a villain” comes from the Alan Moore and David Lloyd’s graphic novel V for Vendetta. I just finished reading it this morning, and this quote grabbed my attention. It truly resonates with my own ideas (which I’ll be sharing here). We’re all special. We’re all heroes, lovers, fools, and villains. We better embrace that. I’ll try doing that here.

Thanks for the time you’ve taken, and if you decide to keep reading this blog, I promise to do my best to make it worthwhile.

Let’s share ideas. As “V” suggests, “they are bulletproof.”